How to always be authentic and true to yourself (2023)

When was the last time you spoke out for one of your most cherished beliefs?

How did you feel when the words came out?

relief? Proud? Confusion?

Maybe after you said the words, as you rehearsed them in your head, you found that they didn't sound like you.

You clung to the part that was true and suppressed your doubts about the rest.

want to betrue to himself, but what does that actually mean?

And how much will it cost?

Why is it important to stay true to yourself?

The best meaning of being true to yourself considers the value of self-knowledge. If you don't know the person you are deep down, how can you be true to that person?

And if you don't stay true to yourself, you risk:

This is not the life you want for yourself or anyone you care about.

so what can you do

11 ways to always stay true to yourself

The following steps can help you grow in your confidence, be authentic, and stay true to yourself.

And the more you make them a part of your life, the more you'll inspire others to do the same.

1. Take responsibility for your own happiness.

Be true to yourself and don't rely on someone else for your happiness.

It may seem like you need someone special's love to make you feel happy.

You need them to make sure they're always there and never hurt you (at least not on purpose).

They enlighten you from within. They challenge you to get better. they believe in you

And you'll do anything to return the favor. But the emotional euphoria does not last.

And repeated doses lead to diminishing returns. You still want her around, but you're beginning to realize that her company isn't enough to make you happy.really happy.

True happiness of soul cannot take root and flourish in something outside of yourself.

2. Be honest with yourself.

Ask yourself what you really want and what kind of person you really want to be.

What have you given up or repressed because you felt you needed it?

Have you sacrificed your own dreams to meet the expectations of others?

If these expectations are worth meeting, is there a way to meet them while honoring your true self and meeting your own legitimate needs?

And if they're not worth knowing, what can you do to get rid of them?

3. Let your heart do the talking (not just your head).

Self-awareness helps you understand where you want to go and what you need to do to get there.

Your head is vital to this process, but so is your heart. Through your heart you connect with your soul.

And as long as you stay separate from your soul, you will never connect to your deepest self and stay true to yourself.

You may think that you are doing what you have to do to meet the expectations generated by your income. You make a living and support those you care about.

But if you can't listen to your own heart, you can't listen to her heart either.

4. Eliminate negative influences.

Stay away from those who refuse to see their worth, who only see what they can criticize or judge.

Sometimes these relationships can be improved through communication and mutual desire for self-improvement. At other times not so much.

You can still choose to forgive and see the good in you.

Until then, do everything you can to protect your mind and heart from its negative attacks.

Compassion doesn't require you to be someone's doormat or emotional sponge.

5. Spend time with yourself (stop avoiding yourself).

Stop avoiding yourself and make time and space for introspection.

You need it to listen to your heart and understand what you are feeling.

Talk to yourself. Or write a letter to yourself. Allow yourself to put into words what you are feeling.

Only then can you begin to discover what you are going through and why.

Regardless of what others do to help you with this, you are uniquely able to identify your own personal values ​​and apply them to your words and actions.

But without time alone, the inner voice that helps is just background noise.

6. Stop trying to be what other people expect you to be.

You don't have to be what other people think is "cool" if that definition doesn't fit who you want to be. You don't have to be anyone's mini-me.

Your worth doesn't depend on whether someone calls you "hardworking" or "funny."

Work as hard as you can no matter what others think.

And leave room for the things you like.

Respect your needpersonal hygieneand for privacy. Nobody has the right to know everything about you.

You are responsible for the decisions you make. So create your own expectations and take action to meet them. You don't need anyone's approval.

7. Choose authenticity over popularity.

You'll meet a lot of people who have their own ideas of what it means to be "cool." And most of these ideas aren't worth the breath it takes to put them into words.

You instinctively know that if you do something harmful to gain the approval of others, you will feel less like yourself.

Deep down you know that you owe it to yourself and the people you love to be authentic and true to your higher self.

And that self doesn't have to be "nice" by anyone's standards.

8. Learn how and when to say "no."

If saying "yes" to someone else means saying "no" to yourself or a previous commitment, take a close look at where that's leading.

What does a "yes" mean and require of you? What makes room for a "no"? or how much will it cost?

Sometimes it seems at first glance that saying "no" costs more than saying "yes".

And sometimes the right answer is somewhere between yes and no, like "not now" or "let me check and I'll call you back."

If the best answer isn't what the other person wants to hear, you don't have to ignore what you know to be true to please them.

9. Connect with your inner voice.

Take time for daily meditation to connect with your inner voice and become more aware of your feelings.

Dictate by writing down ideas that come to mind and take time to think about them.

And that good will not conflict with the greater good of others. Nobody knows karma better than your inner voice.

Stay connected to the larger story of your entire existence and every role you play.

The more you connect with it, the more you can know and be your true self.

10. Forgive yourself and others.

If you cannot forgive yourself for your mistakes, you will have a harder time forgiving others. And any unforgiveness makes it impossible to become the person you want to be.

Every grudge you hold is cement around your ankles. It keeps you stuck in the past while others move on.

And only you can give yourself this gift. You are the only one who can choose to forgive those who hurt you or stop punishing yourself for the mistakes you made.

11. Get out of your comfort zone.

Your life doesn't have to be like your parents' or anyone's idea of ​​what you should do with your life, even if they know and appreciate your strengths.

You are the one who has to live your life and you are responsible for your own decisions. But you cannot reach your full potential without taking risks.

And one of those risks can be angering those who expected you to change your mind.

Other risks can include losing what you've built up to this point, or ending a relationship you're counting on, whether it's good for you or not.

Knowing and honoring the real you is worth the risk. And uncertainty is not your enemy.

can you be true to yourself

Now that you know how to stay true to yourself, what will you do differently in the next few days?

You know how good it is to defend yourself. Other people and their opinions lose power over you. You are proud even when you are alone.

And you're not proud of the person you think you should be to others. You are proud of your true and authentic self.

Are you proud of what you have done as your true self and whathe canmake.

Being authentic frees you from the shackles of other people's perceptions of you.

You don't owe anyone else's opinions. You don't matter anymore.

May you stay true to yourself in everything you say and do today.